The other day, I was waiting to board a plane at Milan airport and randomly bumped into an old school friend and wow, did that bring back some memories. I always used to compare myself to her because I thought she was smarter and had more friends than I could put together in one hand.
Fast forward to 2018 and thankfully, I’m much more secure in myself, but it got me thinking about that old gremlin in deep inside us – the Comparison Bug. All of us compare ourselves to others or have done so at some point of our lives. Its natural to wish for something they have or we’re not good enough compared to them.
But here’s the thing girls, if we constantly compare ourselves to others does it make us happy? I used to compare myself to others ever since school and what I realised that, it was making me unhappy and I lost my self-confidence. It also brings out fear and stops you from finding your true place in the world. I know this to be true because if I constantly compared my business to others, it would surely fail within weeks!
So, when we’re faced with the comparison bug, stop and think for one second, ‘what are these thoughts costing me?’ Is it your inner self-worth, happiness? Think of the affect its having on your inner happiness and change your perspective. Instead of comparing yourself to someone else, think of what you’ve achieved, and chances are, that person you’re comparing yourself with is jealous of you and just showing off to hide their own insecurities.
Being a mum and having to balance that with other responsibilities that you must deal with on a daily basis is a big achievement. You are amazing in what you’re doing so never think that you’re not good enough or don’t have enough compared to others because, in reality, you probably have more than you possibly dreamed of.
The biggest thing I’ve learnt from having a career and being a mum is the ability to be strong enough to say, “this is the life I want” and not feel guilty for saying it. I know, it’s easier said than done right? But, I’ve been able to do this by organising my career in a way that doesn’t inflict on family life.Discover more