Hey mums, how are you doing? What I really wanted to talk to you about today is the “Supermum Syndrome.” You might be thinking, “huh?” but picture the scene, you see a “perfect” mum who works crazy hours and looks after her happy, smiley kids at the same time. Life for her seems a breeze and you feel like lukewarm tea for not being that wonder woman. That’s the “Supermum Syndrome.” We all hear stories everyday about mums like that and, whilst its admirable, the pressure to be like that can make your pressure cooker explode.
You might be thinking I’m being a little harsh, but I’ve had “Supermum Syndrome” and believe me, I’m so glad that I’m not in that cycle any more. When my oldest was born, I felt a huge pressure to be the perfect wife and mum because I thought that was what I had to be. I was obsessed with cleaning, running around like crazy making bottles, burping, changing that I forgot one thing……myself. I felt guilty about putting myself first, but the reality was that I was struggling and feared of being a failure. I created unrealistic expectations that was making me physically ill and I became depressed.
When I got to that point, I realised that if I didn’t stop bashing myself and started to love me again, my daughter would be affected. So, I left the washing to pile up in the sink, I didn’t get dressed as soon as I woke up, I didn’t wash the slightest stain I saw in the kitchen. I stopped, took a step back and started to get that balance that I so craved for in my life.
Achieving that balance wasn’t about having it all, it was about taking care of myself so that I could take care of others. I was giving myself a break and not being so self-critical and I started saying to myself “its ok” for once. So, what I’m saying mums is that, you don’t have to be a “Supermum” who flies around at a million miles an hour just to have it all. You can be even better than a “Supermum” by taking a step back, being kind to yourself and acknowledging that its ok to be you. Its ok put yourself first. You will always be an amazing mum and your kids love you for being you. So next time you start to bash yourself, ask yourself why as I’m sure you’re more amazing than you think you are.
Forever grateful to be with you mums.
The biggest thing I’ve learnt from having a career and being a mum is the ability to be strong enough to say, “this is the life I want” and not feel guilty for saying it. I know, it’s easier said than done right? But, I’ve been able to do this by organising my career in a way that doesn’t inflict on family life.Discover more